Advocacy   This year of 2023, my word is accomplished.  I wanted to focus on finishing ideas, projects, and action steps. Truth be told, it could also include progressing ideas projects and actions steps. Furthermore, it could be as simple as giving language to feelings and concepts.  Rome wasn’t built in a day, but does progress a step at a time.    One of the pillars of my engagement is advocacy.   I’ve spent the majority of my adult life figuring things out. Its felt a lot like the downside of trailblazing.   In this season of my life, I want to share my experiences, advocate for myself, and advocate for others.   A reason for me starting and building this blog  is to share how overflowing grace and abundance looks in real time, in real life, with me, a real person. Another reason is to perfect my voice and   process the components of my life. Advocacy is the pre-curser to change.  Before we see change, we must know how ...

    I think everyone holds tension differently in the body. Mine concentrates at the base of my neck. It sneaks up on me, and then boom, I have a tension headache complete with a tension knot on the base of my neck. It becomes extraordinarily painful to massage and “knot to” . (see what I did there) 😊 Now, I already know that you are thinking a million things that I SHOULD be doing. You are right. ·          Hydration ·          Exercise ·          Anti-Inflammatory Diets ·          Magnets ·          Clinical Massage ·          Chiropractic Care ·          Acupuncture ·          Heating and Cooling Compresses ·          Alcohol/Pai...

This past  Sunday at church, the pastor said to work through your pain. As you heal and restore others, God is healing and restoring you. I was instantly reminded of the losses I had incurred over the last 15 years. There were dark,dry, and lean seasons. I diligently worked through them. Being a loan officer is awesome, except for the moments it's not. There are hard days, crucial conversations, and days that leave you void. With stead fastness you keep pressing forward and see less drama while experiencing more wins than losses. #mortgagegal The key for me was letting the NEED and control go. I'm a work in progress I had adapted an ideology of service. As I help people get what they want, God will take care of what I want. It's my open palm policy. It's why I consult with compassion and guide people to the best solutions possible. It is my responsibility to do the work. Work on good days. Work on bad days. Work during dark, lean, and dry seasons. Diligence has rewards....

  All my life I’ve been self conscious of how I smell.   I have a strong natural odor.   I’ve never been a heavy wet sweater.   I always seem to glisten.  However, at times of stress, exertion anxiety, I will drench my clothes.  Most of my sweat occurs in the folds of my chest and my inner thighs. Nothing smells worse than your diet coming through your skin.     Its a whole excuse why gyms are awkward places to be. Before you judge me, I know that I need a better diet. I understand that healthy people smell like rose water, etc.   That is not my journey with body odor and fragrance.  This is.   My first full time permanent gig was at the bank working in the post closed loan review mortgage department.  Women were expected to wear hosiery and dress a minimum of business casual.  At this same time I developed a strange appreciation for quality tights/hosiery.  (a different post for a different day).  ...

    My birthday is in 2 weeks. It is the one where you should be holding yourself accountable for your past, and getting laser focused on your future. That middle number. Last year I collaborated on a podcast called Headed North. It was a raw discussion about the gifts women experience in mid-life. It was a great discussion and so necessary, however, in the back of my mind I was thinking slightly un-applicable, because I am still young.   But clearly, not that young. Normally I am excited in the weeks leading up to my birthday. It is like my biorhythms are high, life is in full color, and I am happy.   By the time my birthday comes, my thoughts start to pivot. I do the mental checklist of non- completions, or non-starts. I think of the losses and failures. I start to feel depressed. Fortunately it last for just a bit, and I’m able to shake off the dull drums, and get back to living my purpose with intent and joy. For 2023 my word is accomplished. I made of ...